A Chick Repellent

 

He's being sarcastic. I often get told by guys that it's "a chick repellent" or words to that effect. These people are typically boorish individuals whose conversations are frequently focussed on having sex with women, fighting, and other topics that do not interest me. They also invariably have a deep antipathy towards me, and the feeling is entirely mutual.

I used to think they were talking absolute nonsense.  But I have found out that they are correct. My other blog covers philosophical issues, and people consider it to be quite intellectual. Literally, around 60-70% of the time when I linked to my blog on a dating site, the woman concerned simply stopped communicating with me. This baffled me, as I thought it would generally impress them, and they would be more interested in thoughtful men. But one of them explained that with her previous boyfriend she felt left out as she couldn't understand what her boyfriend and his friends were talking about, so she's not repeating that mistake.

I never talk about intellectual stuff in real life anyway, it's purely reserved for my blog!

Also see my Advice on getting a girlfriend.

Advice on getting a girlfriend

Just read this: I’m fit and intelligent, but can’t get a date. Should I give up?

. .well at least the initial letter, I haven't bothered with reading the response from the agony aunt.

He says: 

I put a lot of effort into online dating, but the final straw was sending quality personal messages to 47 different women over six months and receiving nil positive replies.

In my experience I never got any responses for articulate thoughtful initial messages. You have to put "Yo!" or whatever (or, at least, something short). And linking to my blog (my other one) virtually assured that they would either suddenly cease communicating with me, or I got some excuse. I'm not kidding...

Having said that, I did meet someone before from a dating site.

Coming across as super-intelligent is going to put them off. As is being thick. They want someone they can relate to, of about equal intelligence to them.   

My conclusion with my experience is you're most likely to succeed when you don't try too hard and not really too fussed if they don't respond again. When you're flippant and "random" in your responses. When you perplex and intrigue them.

Oh yes, and I cannot stress how important is that you are smiling in your profile picture!  It is absolutely essential!